Ladies who are you dressing for?

Photo Courtesy of The Urban Daily

Women love to believe that all the things we do to beautify ourselves, make-up, hair, outfits, shoes, bags, shades, nails,  etc etc etc are impressive to men.. and while this may be true for some detailed oriented, keeping yourself red carpet ready may be a priority for some men, most men do not even realize nor care as much as we think they do... in essence women don't really go to the high line of beauty to impress men, but for the most part they are consciously or sub consciously doing it to impress themselves or other women..

We as women are our own worst critics, a woman who tear down another woman's outfit, hairstyle, in a heartbeat, 10 times faster than she would give another woman a compliment, especially if she is off-point herself... why? lord only knows... Women are naturally competitive in some ways more than men... our level of competition seems to be so multifaceted; we want to be the sexiest, the smartest, the freakiest, the prettiest, the most stylish, the realest, the coolest, the most down to earth, the most conceited, the best cook, the best cleaner, the best dancer, the most independent... face it ladies, some of us have issues.. we want to be perfectionists!!!

But how do men really feel about the things we like or find impressive for ourselves.. and are we really doing it to impress them, ourselves, or each other?

Hair:  this is the topic of the 21st century..there was a time when no one wore weaves and short cuts were cool and cute, but now it seems like everyone has one.. I still don't understand what makes a woman want to wear a weave all the time and when did that become the standard for black hair? Well Essence Magazine surveyed black men to ask them how they feel about it our hair.

56% of black men say they are bothered by weaves and fake hair. "A weave says you are insecure with your own hair and ashamed of what God gave you." Nate-30

Now ladies don't kill Nate...

69% of black men said they don't care about the length of your hair as long as it looks good on you (so the 16,18,20,22 inches really is a waste of your money if you think that's what men like.. seems like it's only impressive when you grew it yourself)

22% of black men said they "hate" our head scarves..  (and that 22% will get over it, unless they want us to sleep upright in a chair all night or look like who dun it and ran in the am!)

Stretch Marks: We as women CRINGE at the thoughts of stretch marks and cellulite! We salve on cocoa butter like we own stock in it hoping to reverse the affects of the awwwful stretch mark! We pray to GOD that the delivery of our children will not leave us with a web of stretchmarks that leaves us unable to ever show our stomachs again in life! But how do men feel about them?

Essence Survey Says!

53% of black men could care less about your stretch marks.  (and FYI.. if you deliver his child and earn stretch marks as a byproduct, and he has a problem with them.. KICK HIM)

Intelligence: wanting to be the smartest crayon in the box may be impressive to your school teachers but how does it fare with the opposite sex.. we all have seen the Jessica Simpsons of the world with great guys and ask ourselves, how, why? She's dumb as a doornail!

Well ladies the men have spoken... it seems like for some being extra smart just isnt important to them.. the #1 trait that mattered to black men??

48% said LOYALTY.. Intelligence was on the most important to 14%..

So ladies that information should tell you something? Maybe its time you put the lip gloss aside, ur video vixen outfits, and the newton theory on relativity and just focus on whats inside? So when the time comes you can be that supportive, loyal partner he really wants and needs...

That is all.

xoxo
Carrie Pink
Modern Day Supergirl