Can you really wing a relationship?


let me rephrase that question.. Can you really wing a GOOD relationship?

As someone who is always reading about good relationships bad relationships warning signs and wedding bells I often ask myself can couples really wing a good relationship??

I feel like there is a handbook for everything in the world...

How to pick a high school
How to pick a college
How to pick a major
How to get pregnant
How to have sex
How to take care of a baby
How to land your ideal job
How to survive a recession
How to invest in stocks
How to save
How to budget
How to be a better christian
How to believe in you

Umm so where is the

How to be a good BOYFRIEND
How to be a good GIRLFRIEND
How to be a good WIFE
How to be a good HUSBAND
How survive a relationship/ shacking up/ engagement/ marriage book???

Almost every woman I know when she is pregnant someone always buys her the
"What To Expect When Your Expecting" series...

Its like a rite of passage to rely on this resource book from conception to your child's 5th bday... What about ur relationship where is the tell all guide on how to survive that year after year after year?

I mean I am sure there are a million articles, and books out there, but none have seemed to reach the MUST HAVE GUIDE for every new betrothed or married couple .. Why is that??

With anything else in life to become an expert u have to read, study, and go through trial and error, in addition to learn from other experts who know more than u and repeat until u master it yet with relationships and marriages one too many people just feel like they can wing their way to happy relationship/ shacking up/ wedding bliss.. no wonder 50% of all marriages end in divorce!!!!!

Are u kidding me? Nobody understands the work it takes to keep a relationship and family together until they are in the thick of it yet and even still when the realization dawns on them they seem to believe they can get through it on their own even though their common sense AND current state of affairs should be enough proof of how little of an expert they really are! lol

Why are so many opposed to using more resources in regards to relationships? Good resources, not your homegirl who fights with her husband everyday, and whenever she hears you say you had an argument with your man, she tells you, HMMM GIRL LEAVE HIM!!!!!

Books, articles, videos, counseling, place of worship, and couples who have been married 10 years plus are all good resources available to help u be a better participant in your relationship even if you are NOT looking to get married right now.. yet so many of us don't take advantage

Don't you want to get to know you better? and the person you are in partnership with??

"Whatever you invest your time and money into will determine what you have chosen to love. Your heart will be inclined to what you invest in." The Love Dare Day 12

... so if only invest in material things, or yourself those will be the only things you ever learn how to love.. comprende??

Any questions??

xoxo
Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

3 comments:

Dr. J said...

I think there are resources out there to teach people how to be in a good relationship. I think that as I always preach, people listen to the wrong people about their problems. You complain and discuss why you can't find a man with a bunch of single people, that's couterproductive. Maybe you want to talk to a friend who used to be single and was able to find a man.

So I think a book of success stories would be great for a good relationship manual. I would read it, and you see them often. Testimonials on things that lovers did/do for each other.

Some book written by someone who is single or a hot mess, (like Steve Harvey married MULTIPLE TIMES), is never productive.

To answer your blog question, the answer is yes and many people do it. I can tell you right now I can coach someone to a good relationship. Because actions speak louder than words, and feelings are not always clear. You can act like you love someone, act like you care for someone. I think people who do this are very deceitful people and I hope they get whats coming for them. These relationships can even develop into marriages if people aren't really careful. I think in order to avoid this it takes an ounce of common sense and looking at the tangents of the relationship, not always what's in front of you. Do not be afraid to "look under the carpet" every now and then.

Sharon said...

I like your post! I can offer up a little resource that I think you would like, "A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage," at borders, amazon, etc. And come by and visit @ www.ashortguidetoahappymarriage.com

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