The Palladium Murder

NY just paid $1.2 million to David Lemus after he spent 14 yrs in prison on a wrongful murder conviction. Is that enough or is that FAR too little?

That's 85k per year for wrongful incarceration. To me, that's unconscionable... Is that all freedom is worth, after 14 years of prison.. 14 missed birthdays, 14 years worth of holidays, graduations, enhancing his own life and watching it grow.. thats all its worth????

Granted, he probably wouldn't have made more than 85k per year if he never went to prison. But what about peace, freedom, safety, love, community and most of all happiness? Can you put a price on the loss of all that?? and $85k a year to boot?

David Lemus and Olmedo Hidalgo were released from prison in 2005 after having served 14 years for a murder that a New York judge found they had been wrongly convicted of. The murder of a Palladium nightclub bouncer in 1990.

Both men were picked out of an police photo book and arrested... why??? it seems because they both had 1 previous arrest each and the police needed 2 suspects. (YOUNG MEN STAY OUT OF THE SYSTEM! THEY USE THOSE MINOR ARRESTS TO PIN YOU WITH MAJOR CRIMES!!!)

Joseph Pillot, who confessed in 1995 to being an accomplice in Palludium killing with Thomas “Spanky” Morales, a fellow member of a Bronx drug gang told police Not only were Lemus and Hidalgo not involved, he said, but he had never seen them before in his life. (yet Lemus and Hidalgo still served another 10 years in jail? WOW)

No one disputes that Hidalgo is innocent, including the office of Manhattan District Attorney Robert M. Morgenthau, which, after years of opposition, eventually agreed to defense lawyers’ motion to dismiss his conviction.

And no one disputes that Lemus was wrongly convicted — no one, that is, except the office of Manhattan District Attorney Robert M. Morgenthau, which, after 15 years, three investigations, two hearings and one trial, still believes Lemus is guilty and plans to retry him in the murder of Markus Peterson, a bouncer at the Palladium nightclub who was gunned down on Thanksgiving Day 1990.

Now, the assistant district attorney in Morgenthau’s office who argued against freeing Lemus two years ago is going public to say he, too, believes Lemus is innocent.

“I disagreed then and disagree now with the DA’s Office’s effort to retry Lemus,” Daniel L. Bibb wrote last month in a comment on a blog that criticized his role in the 2005 hearing. “And I still lose sleep over this case.”

Even though it was Bibb who stood up in court and argued that Lemus and Hidalgo should not be freed, “I fought tirelessly to convince my superiors that the convictions should be set aside and when I was forced to do a hearing I did everything in my power to insure that the defendants would win their motion to set aside the convictions,” Bibb wrote in the blog commentary.

Nonetheless, Lemus was set to go on trial again Oct. 22 2007, 2 years after his release and on Dec 6, 2007 he was finally acquitted! He sued the state of New York for $50 million, but only received $1.5... umm really NY?

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl

Can you really wing a relationship?

let me rephrase that question.. Can you really wing a GOOD relationship?

As someone who is always reading about good relationships bad relationships warning signs and wedding bells I often ask myself can couples really wing a good relationship??

I feel like there is a handbook for everything in the world...

How to pick a high school
How to pick a college
How to pick a major
How to get pregnant
How to have sex
How to take care of a baby
How to land your ideal job
How to survive a recession
How to invest in stocks
How to save
How to budget
How to be a better christian
How to believe in you

Umm so where is the

How to be a good BOYFRIEND
How to be a good GIRLFRIEND
How to be a good WIFE
How to be a good HUSBAND
How survive a relationship/ shacking up/ engagement/ marriage book???

Almost every woman I know when she is pregnant someone always buys her the
"What To Expect When Your Expecting" series...

Its like a rite of passage to rely on this resource book from conception to your child's 5th bday... What about ur relationship where is the tell all guide on how to survive that year after year after year?

I mean I am sure there are a million articles, and books out there, but none have seemed to reach the MUST HAVE GUIDE for every new betrothed or married couple .. Why is that??

With anything else in life to become an expert u have to read, study, and go through trial and error, in addition to learn from other experts who know more than u and repeat until u master it yet with relationships and marriages one too many people just feel like they can wing their way to happy relationship/ shacking up/ wedding bliss.. no wonder 50% of all marriages end in divorce!!!!!

Are u kidding me? Nobody understands the work it takes to keep a relationship and family together until they are in the thick of it yet and even still when the realization dawns on them they seem to believe they can get through it on their own even though their common sense AND current state of affairs should be enough proof of how little of an expert they really are! lol

Why are so many opposed to using more resources in regards to relationships? Good resources, not your homegirl who fights with her husband everyday, and whenever she hears you say you had an argument with your man, she tells you, HMMM GIRL LEAVE HIM!!!!!

Books, articles, videos, counseling, place of worship, and couples who have been married 10 years plus are all good resources available to help u be a better participant in your relationship even if you are NOT looking to get married right now.. yet so many of us don't take advantage

Don't you want to get to know you better? and the person you are in partnership with??

"Whatever you invest your time and money into will determine what you have chosen to love. Your heart will be inclined to what you invest in." The Love Dare Day 12

... so if only invest in material things, or yourself those will be the only things you ever learn how to love.. comprende??

Any questions??

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

2010 Handbook

taken from Keleasha Chalas

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minutes walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...

25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change..
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come..
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

What if Obama was Cablasian...

Now what if Obama stood up to the American people during his race for President and said Im not black Im Cablasion would he be President today? I'm just saying...

The cool thing about Obama is this. He acknowledges the fact that he's mixed just like Halle and Mariah and all the other Americans of mixed race, but he also clearly knows that no matter what, people see him as a black man FIRST, anything else he has to explain.

Now that the world has turned on Tiger I wonder how he feels... Knowing that one group has no support for him now because he denied them back then, and the other group that did support him always looked at him as part of the first group anyway! What about the Asian community are they standing up for Tiger right now?

Honestly I think Tiger has a complex... He wants to not be considered black so bad that he made up his own race... Married the whitest blondest woman he could find, made her sign a contract saying she would appear publicly with him for x amount of his tournaments and public events per year... Smh talk about a great business opportunity for her and a stamp on his society acceptance card.

Truthfully Tiger is clever, but dumb. I understand that he's not a conformist and didn't want to be pigeonholed to any one group so he made one up, probably would have gone over better if he said Im not only black Im also white and Asian too, I call it calbliasain.... But to deny one aspect of himself and his black father to sit next to him and co-sign that was just silly to me? Does they think they are too good to be identified as black? Like some blacks in Jamaica who buy White Status?

This definitely leaves me to ask a question, Is it ignorant to still classify anyone who looks black as black?

This is a touchy topic but I mean could someone like Wesley Snipes come out and say oh no Im NOT black I'm Cablasian? Would we buy that? Do new races need to be made since there has been so much intermixing? Is it self hate and lack of self love to completely deny a part of who you are??

Maybe thats the solution..Create new races... Because now a days I don't think there are too many people left who fit into 4 square races categories anyway..

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Taken from

Just when you were expecting another humdrum holiday season of too much turkey and eggnog, long lines at the airport and the usual family drama, leave it to Tiger Woods to provide a much-needed distraction.

There's nothing like a good-old celebrity scandal to get tongues wagging. And Woods is helping to close out the first decade of the new century with a doozy. With 11 women and counting apparently linked to the married golf superstar, the stories just keep coming:

Woods crashes his car the morning after Thanksgiving in a single-car accident that still has police baffled. Out of the wreck come rumors of Woods' infidelity to wife Elin Nordegren. When cocktail waitress Jaimee Grubbs releases a bombshell voice-mail message implicating Woods in a nearly three-year affair, the golfer finally issues a Web site apology for his "transgressions."

As more women emerge, Woods is said to be holed up in his Florida estate, while his wife may have moved out and her mother is rushed to the hospital, possibly from the stress of the erupting scandal.

Although it may seem nothing can top the implosion of Woods' carefully crafted image, there were plenty of other star scandals that rocked the headlines in the past 10 years. A look back at the biggest celebrity scandals of the decade:


The decade started so good for Britney Spears. She was at the top of her game at the 2002 MTV Video Music Awards when she strutted across the stage crooning "I'm a Slave 4 U," a larger-than-life snake slithering above her taut abs.

Even Madonna wanted a piece of her. Their kiss at the 2003 VMAs made headlines around the world and is still one of MTV's most-talked-about moments.

By 2006, it appeared the pop princess was ready to abdicate her throne, her marriage to Kevin Federline and custody of their two boys, Sean Preston and Jayden James. A months-long saga of bad behavior that included multiple flashes of her private parts, countless nights on the town and allegations of drug and alcohol abuse culminated in February 2007 with Spears buzzing off her famous locks at a Tarzana, Calif., hair salon while photographers snapped away outside.

It took nearly two years and her father taking charge of her life before Spears regained her footing. Musically, she ends the decade on an up note, on tour with her latest album "Circus," which went platinum.


Usually playing the Super Bowl halftime show is a real honor. For Janet Jackson, it became a horror.

At the 2004 Super Bowl, Jackson, along with Justin Timberlake, sang a medley of her hits "All for You" and "Rhythm Nation." As Timberlake sang the lyric "I'm gonna have you naked by the end of this song" from his hit "Rock Your Body," he tore off part of Jackson's bustier, revealing her right breast, completely adorned with nipple shield.

"Nipplegate," as it came to be known, CBS was slapped with a hefty fine. But the case remains open, with the network's appeal still bouncing around the courts.


The Los Angeles County coroner ruled Jackson's death a homicide caused by a combination of sedatives and the powerful anesthetic propofol in 2009. As the police investigation continues, it's clear that Jackson's death will be as controversial as his life.


When Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston split in early 2005 after nearly five years of marriage, Angelina Jolie was widely believed to be the reason.. 5 years later and how many kids? guess it was true after all


After months of unfavorable tabloid coverage and speculation about the state of their marriage, Jon and Kate Gosselin parents of twins and sextuplets, announced on the June 22 episode of their TLC show, "Jon & Kate Plus 8," that they'd begun divorce proceedings. The show recently wrapped Novemer 23rd..

ahhh.. TGIF!

HONORABLE MENTIONS... Kobe and the Hotel Chick.... Mashonda, Swizz Beats and Alicia Keys..... Lil Wayne and all his baby mamas


Carrie Pink

Pretty World Inc

Modern Day Supergirl

Whitening The Resume

Taken from the New York Times. "In Job Hunt, College Degree Can’t Close Racial Gap" and "Whitening the Resume"

Johnny Williams has scrubbed his résumé of any details that might tip off his skin color. Johnny, 30, would appear to be an unlikely person to have to fret about the impact of race on his job search, with companies like JPMorgan Chase and an M.B.A. from the University of Chicago on his résumé.

But after graduating from business school last year and not having much success garnering interviews, he decided to retool his résumé, scrubbing it of any details that might tip off his skin color. His membership, for instance, in the African-American business students association? Deleted

Black joblessness has long far outstripped that of whites. And strikingly, the disparity for the first 10 months of this year, as the recession has dragged on, has been even more pronounced for those with college degrees, compared to those without. Education, it seems, does not level the playing field — in fact, this year it appears to have made it more uneven.

The unemployment rate for black male college graduates 25 and older in 2009 has been nearly twice that of white male college graduates — 8.4 percent compared with 4.4 percent. (Bureau of Labor Statistics)

Black job seekers have a harder time than whites. A study published several years ago in The American Economic Review titled “Are Emily and Greg More Employable than Lakisha and Jamal?” found that applicants with black-sounding names received 50 percent fewer callbacks than those with white-sounding names.

Another study published this year in "The Journal of Labor Economics" found white, Asian and Hispanic managers tended to hire more whites and fewer blacks than black managers did. (keep it in the family)

There is also the question of how many jobs, especially higher-level ones, are never even posted and depend on word-of-mouth and informal networks, in many cases leaving blacks at a disadvantage. A recent study published in the academic journal Social Problems found that white males receive substantially more job leads for high-level supervisory positions than women and members of minorities

Carrie Pinks thoughts
So do you ever pull your race card in these situations? According to the article most people do not. Should we?

Is playing down blackness a common strategy born of necessity, perceived or real?

How soul piercing is it to have Jabarr Sykes change his name on his resume to read as Barry J. Sykes? Does it remind you of the searing scene in the groundbreaking movie “Roots” when the runaway slave Kunta Kinte is whipped until he declares that his name is Toby, the name given to him by his master?

Are we the only group who does this? No! other minorities also downplay their identities due to conceived pressure.

Are the pressures real? or do we create them?

“the line originally was between whites and nonwhites, favoring whites; now it’s whites and nonwhites who are willing to act white.”

And lastly.. what is the cost for all this???

John L. Jackson Jr., a professor of anthropology and communications at the University of Pennsylvania and author of “Racial Paranoia,” said, "even if the adjustments are temporary and seem harmless, In some ways, they are denying who and what they are,” he said. “They almost have to pretend themselves away.”

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Your 9-5 and 5-9

 Taken from Parents Magazine, redeveloped by Carrie

61% of all moms handle 80% of the household duties and chores often feeling like they have 2 full time jobs!

Only 20% of couples where both parents work split child care and chores and women aren't happy about it

4% of men do absolutely nothing to help around the house

Not only are women responsible for more tasks around the house, they are also expected to do more non optional tasks outside of the house such as laundry and grocery shopping and are expected to take all of the kids with them!! Alone!!! More frequently than men if men do it at all or ever take the kids with them when they go.

Men put on this helpless act..I couldn't possibly handle the kids alone in the supermarket, laundromat, gas station, movie theater, museum, front porch..

ooh but moms should carry the kids with us to the hair salon, nail salon, grocery, laundry, church, school, car wash, ob gyn appointments.. where ever..

Most men chores are optional and infrequent, care maintenance, home repairs, leave raking, putting up an occasional shelf..

What about cleaning?
Moms with kids under 3 spend over 20 hours a week cleaning in addition to constantly having a mental check list to manage that dads seldom think about or ask to help with

Studies show that couples who handle housework as a team have happier and more stable marriages...

But did they really need a study to figure that out??

Washing the dishes and having someone right there to dry them and put them away will make any woman swoon! DUH.

Husbands who help around the house also feel far less lonely, they feel more involved and have a better sex life... Lol yeah I bet lol

A great reference book on this is "Getting to 50/50 how working couples can have it all by sharing it all"

Another major strain on relationships?? Most women hate when men complain or make comments about the state of the house... Especially when they aren't doing much of anything to contribute!!!!!!! either pick up a dust rag or just shut the @$%^ up.

Moreover, while most husbands often come home and get to relax most women never get that option. We are racing around straightening up, helping and checking homework, fixing dinner, bathing the kids getting them ready for bed, etc etc etc

Our jobs are really never done! Its like having 2 jobs seriously and by the time the kids are already in bed lunches or snacks are packed for the next day its 9p when a mother finally gets to relax and have time to herself on an average night.. and by then she's POOPED! She's probably ready to go to bed right behind the kids like I usually am!

So fellas help out a little more because a happy energized wife means a "happy" man in more ways than 1!!

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Greedy or Caring?

Taken from AOL news.

The daughter of Europe's richest woman has asked that her mother be placed under judicial supervision, BBC News reported.

Francoise Bettencourt-Meyers, 56, insists that her 87-year-old mother's lavish gifts to a friend -- totaling about $1.5 billion -- raise serious questions about her state of mind.

Liliane Bettencourt's fortune derives from her sizable stake in cosmetics giant L'Oreal. In 2009, Forbes estimated her worth at $13.4 billion, and declared her the 21st richest person on the planet.

Such wealth would seem to be virtually inexhaustible. But over the last few years, said the BBC, Bettencourt has showered huge quantities of money and gifts upon Francois-Marie Banier, a 62-year-old photographer and artist.

Bettencourt-Meyers has pressed charges against Banier, accusing him of manipulating her elderly mother and treating the cosmetics heiress as a human ATM. That case will come to court next week, said the BBC.

If convicted, Banier could serve up to three years in prison, said The New York Times. Meanwhile, Bettencourt-Meyers and her lawyer, Olivier Metzner, are asking for her mother’s finances to put placed under court authority. "

Bettencourt has dismissed her daughter's charges as nonsense, said the BBC. And in a rare 2008 interview quoted by The New York Times, the matriarch defended her friendship with Banier and questioned her daughter’s motives. "I have known Francois-Marie Banier for more than 20 years," she said. "My husband knew him for 20 years. What fly has bitten my daughter?"

Carrie Pink Thoughts

So this story has a 2 fold scenario.

Is the daughter just a greedy wench who doesnt want to have her inheritance depleted by her mother or is she really just a caring daughter?

If the mother is 87 and still lives on her own to me that says that so far to date the mother is still well enough to care for herself. This isn't a story over the genuine concern of her mothers mental state, but more on the state of the mothers MONEY. In addition Mrs Liliane has the right to spend her money however she feels and may be looking for A) a way to spend some for tax reasons, B) just because she feels generous, and or C) doesn't want to leave it to her greedy child D) is getting it on with Mr Banier and likes to play Suga Mama E) is senile and doesn't know she is being swindled.

Any of the above are possible, but B) C) and D) seem the most likely from the story. I have a client right now who is 85 years old and looking to invest $250 million cash just because he doesn't want his children to inherit ANY of it. Why? He doesn't trust them, He is investing the money into long term business agreements and real estate deals of $25 Million a pop and is signing contracts to not be paid a return on of his investments for 75 years. That way his grandchildren and great grands will receive all the money. He has willed to his children only $1 each.

What do you guys think? Is she being greedy or caring?

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl

A Toy Drive to Honor the Memory of Skye Catherine

Hi All,

Helping others is not just an act of charity but the act of a responsible person.

This season we are pulling together for ill children, and would really appreciate your support!

My elementary school BFF Tiffany Robertson and her twin sisters Nerissa and Naretha Robertson with the help of myself and another childhood friend Teniqua Kornegay are collecting new unopened toys for the children of the Elizabeth Seton Pediatric Center here in NYC.

Skye Catherine was the daughter of Naretha Robertson and was greatly cared for by the staff of Elizabeth Seton and Naretha made many friends there. This holiday season, we would like to do what we can to contribute to making this time just a little more enjoyable for the children who are there due to illness and their families.

Due to the medical fragility of the children at Elizabeth Seton we are not accepting physical volunteers. Additionally hospital policy prohibits us from accepting any stuffed animals or any toys that can not be washed or disinfected. However, we would truly appreciate any contribution to help our efforts.

If you are unable to help, please tell a friend to tell a friend in the area. We have no problem using my navigation system and MapQuest to come to you to pick up any/all donations! The toy drive will end on Dec.18th. If we are unable to coordinate with us by then you can bring them to Canal Room as well that night, during regular party time hours as we celebrate DJ Bloc's B-Day!

We will be delivering all of the toys on Saturday, December 19th so that the staff has ample time to sort and distribute the gifts to the children during the holiday. We appreciate your help!! Please feel free to contact us.

Thanks Again!

Carrie, Tiffy, Rissa, Retha & Niq

Daddy? Parenting 102

Is anyone paying attention, Lil Wayne has fathered 3 kids in less than 2 years with 3 different women.

What the???

And from what I understand Lauren London didn't even want her baby, but Wayne told her if she didn't keep it he would expose her abortion to the media.

I was reading about his new sons, Lennox with Lauren and Neal with Nivea and someone commented...

I don't know what Wayne is saying to get all these girls to breed and birth, but if its threats to expose them to the media. thats just crazy.

A man on the post was ranting and I decided to repost his thoughts here.. I hope he doesn't mind. ; )

Women deserve husbands not baby-daddies!! -smh- all our beautiful black women need husbands and not babby-daddies!! -smfh- When is this shit gonna end?! Our women don't have self respect or self worth! I'm willing to bet that all of them grew up without a father figure.

Why do I say that, you might ask? Because women usually don't feel that they have worth unless they have had their father or a male figure in their life growing up to constantly tell them that they are worth more than any jewel on this earth and that they should be treated as such. Don't get me wrong, they're moms can tell them that, but it really does something different when they hear it from their father (male figure). I hate to do this, but let me get something off my chest.

We can spend all day talking about the ills afflicting urban America -- and there are plenty that are institutional -- but the decaying value of life in inner cities clearly can be traced to the exodus of fathers from the lives of so many young men. Excuses often are tossed about as to why black men leave their children (and their children's moms) to fend for themselves. But, a lot of them are just sorry and refuse to accept the responsibility that comes with raising a child.

A lot of my colleagues will suggest it's too simplistic to assign such a high value to a dad being in the life of a child. But just take a visit to your local jail, juvenile hall or state prison. You likely will be confronted with a sea of black men -- strong, able-bodied, creative and restless -- who have spent or will spend years and years with a prison number identifying who they are.

According to the U.S. Justice Department, of all the black men in the U.S. between the ages of 25 and 29 in 2002, 10.4 percent were incarcerated. Hispanic and white men? Just 2.4 percent and 1.2 percent respectively. If a poll were done on how many grew up without fathers, I can guarantee you the numbers would be staggering.

The rampant poverty that exists has led many young blacks to a life of crime, choosing to sell drugs and involve themselves in gangs as opposed to focusing on education as a way out of the cellar of life.

But, you see, when nearly 70 percent of black kids are born to unmarried parents, likely to a too-young mom, that puts tremendous pressure on grandmothers (and some grandfathers), sisters and brothers to take up the slack. But, if the person who impregnated that woman were on the scene, not only helping to pay for the raising of the child but also serving as a strong influence, I just don't believe we would see such a chronic condition.

I'm sorry I had to take it there, but it's a damn shame that we have so many baby mama's and baby daddies out there! We need more Mama's and Daddies, (i.e. Husbands & wives).

There, I'm going to let it go now.

Just sheddin' light! Peace!

I love this post! Peace to the brother who wrote it! Wish I had your info so I could big you up properly!!!

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl

Parenting 101

We're getting serious today peeps. ; )

Today's article will also be featured on Corporate B-Boyisms

One of the most difficult tasks to accomplish in life is being a parent, and even more difficult in my opinion is being a step parent...

There is no coursework, book, or words of advice available that can truly prepare you enough for the world of parenting; it’s just something you have to experience for yourself to understand.

Why? Because becoming a parent is a gamble, you never know what kind of child you are going to get OR what kind of parent you’re going to be.

You don't even know what your baby is going to look like! Each one is different, have different personalities, and react to u differently.

I remember when I had my first daughter; once I delivered I couldn’t wait to see her, I mean you are literally meeting this little person for the first time ever but you instantly love them and think they are the cutest thing ever..

I know a lot of mothers and have yet to find one who thinks at birth that her child is ugly :) unconditional love has begun ;)

Now what makes parenting difficult? Because I tell you it is not easy. Personally I don’t think it’s the physical stuff that makes it difficult, it isn’t the nightly feedings; pamper changing, lack of sleep, or the screaming and crying.

To me the hardest part of being a parent is the responsibility of developing another human being. You are primarily responsible for how this baby turns out as an adult. Their morals, values, mannerisms, mentality, ambition level, laziness level, neatness, sloppiness, dependency, independence, social or antisocial behaviors, outlook of the world, educational achievement goals, all of that are direct results of the things you say and do AND even the things you don’t say and don’t do.
Team that together with place of worship, the educational system, extended family, friends, and media influence; and there you have a total child all wrapped up in a cute little pink or blue package with all the things that will have some sort of impact on them in life.

Knowing that the responsibility is so vast I can see why some parents cower away from it placing the responsibility and their child with family members or even strangers to do it for them. Parenting is a very serious matter, one that should NOT be taken lightly or performed half ass, so to willingly put a child through a life where you choose not to acquire tools to help them succeed and fight your own fears is just irresponsible.

Don’t get me wrong, A lot of parents are not equipped themselves at the time their baby is born with the tools they need to survive as an adult, so how can they give them to a child?  For young parents in particular it ends up being a learning process for both parties, a parent learning to grow up while teaching a child at the same time, surely there will be mistakes, but I can respect those parents who give it their best and try to improve themselves while improving the lives of their children 

What would help parents along the way? In my opinion SUPPORT! Emotional support, financial support, educational support, SUPPORT SUPPORT SUPPORT, Mothers need Fathers, Aunts, Uncles, Grandmas, Grandpas, Cousins, Siblings, the whole gamut! It truly does take a village to raise a child and more people need to realize that every child born today is the future of tomorrow, so even if you didn’t birth them yourself take interest in them, the world you will be leaving behind, and the “who” you will be leaving it to.

When we are all old and grey regardless of whether you have your own children or not SOMEONE’s child will be making decisions for you when you are no longer capable to make them yourself, the nurse in the hospital, the director of the nursing home, the home health aide, the Access-A-Ride driver, the Power of Attorney… don’t you want to feel secure that this child, now an adult was raised well, and will respect you and take good care of you in your old age, not the home attendant who is robbing you, the nurse who neglects you and lets you lay in your own excretions for days, and the access a ride driver who speeds constantly scaring you half to death??

Our generation never seems to think that far ahead, other people’s children are not our problem, and as parents now-a-days we don’t subscribe to the idea that it takes a village to raise a child, we believe our kids are our kids and everyone else should just mind their business…but your child isn’t just your child.. One day they will be someone’s student, and eventually one day be someone’s employee, maybe even your employee.

We have to let go of the selfish attitude that says; A failed child means a failed parent… (sucking my teeth) a failed child means way more than a failed parent, it means a failed community! I can only speak for myself but my greatest adult admirer was not my parents, It was my grandmother! She, who took a major interest in my future, made sure I stayed on the right track and didn’t take any of my excuses!! She is the reason why I am the woman I am today…. For some of you out there it may have been a teacher or a mentor, or even a FRIENDS PARENT!!!

If I can leave you with anything I leave you with this.. Don’t fail to acknowledge all the positive traits you have as a parent or even if you are not a parent that can really have a positive impact the life of someone else’s child, don’t sulk away from the responsibility of being a part of a community that raises a child, and finally don’t turn your back on the youth and say they are not my problem…. They may not be now, but they sure might be later.

Food For Thought

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Carrie Pink is the founder of Pretty World Inc a nonprofit resource center for women who need help navigating and plotting their road map to life! She is also a writer for, a mentor to girls at Ramapo High School, a motivational speaker and a mother of three. Check her out on twitter @carriepink

Recession? What Recession???

Did any of you go out this Black Friday, Shadowy Saturday? The stores were swamped!!! Are you about to go online today? Cyber Monday!?

Is it just me or are people really pretending like this recession doesn't exist?? Maybe they don't know about it? They missed the memo or the news announcement???

I went to Sears and it was a zoo, lucky I knew exactly what I needed, which I got and left.. smh..but the scores of people and the lines around the entire store definitely let me know people were more on the WANT side than the NEED side this holiday season.

How do you guys feel about the recession? Are you feeling it? Do you think it's just hype and fluff? Have you curbed your spending at all or not really?

I'm amazed at how far a dollar doesn't get me right now. Milk, eggs, cheese are sky high!!! Gas is still hella high, I'm seeing and feeling the recession myself and I make more than the average American, so how the hell are median income Americans out there waiting on line for 5 hours for WALMART to open for their big screen TV's???

Are they just saying effe the emergency fund? who needs one of those??? Effe the savings account, money is meant to be spent anyway! ; )

I have learned the VALUE of an emergency fund.. one hiccup can cost u for months people.. why are we spending like disposable income really exists??

None of us know what tomorrow will bring, I could have went ballistic on Friday and then gotten laid off this morning.. It happens people.. What would you do if you had gotten laid off 9am this morning???

Would you be dashing back to the stores returning your black Friday purchases or are you really that well off where it doesn't matter???

hmm?? hmm hmm???

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Pessimists Can Turn Optimist


Take an honest look at your personality. Are you a pessimist or an optimist? When the clouds of concern sweep into your emotional life, do you look down and complain about them? Or do you search the clouds for the silver lining of opportunity?

There have been some interesting studies done concerning these two personality types. Researchers have found that people who are pessimistic are generally more realistic about life than their optimistic sisters and brothers. Optimists tend to GLOSS over obstacles and MINIMIZE problems. They don’t create a balanced picture of circumstances. They also tend to idealize situations disproportionately.

However, optimists are generally more successful and accomplish much more than their pessimistic siblings—in spite of their lack of objectivity. The reason for this is that the optimist IGNORE some of the NEGATIVE FACTS and weighs the positive aspects of the situation more heavily. They tend to accomplish things that their pessimistic friends DON'T EVEN ATTEMPT. In fact, they often accomplish the seemingly IMPOSSIBLE.

We all have a very important choice between being optimistic or pessimistic. Which will it be for you? You can be an optimist.. just follow these 4 important rules.

1. Remember what Henry Ford said, "You can believe you can, or you can believe you can’t, either way you will be correct." Ford understood more than just how to make cars. He saw that the way we view life determines its outcome.

Psychologists call this phenomenon the self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think something will work, you will try possibilities until you find the solution. Obviously, if you think your efforts are doomed to failure, you will quickly quit after an initial failed attempt.

2. Make life a game. Take a problem and make it into a contest like the Super-Bowl. If you need to further your education, make that burdensome task into a game. Frame your response to that goal in terms of you against an opponent.

Next, design a game plan that will bring you victory over the opposition and then execute that strategy. For example, make studying for a test into your attempt to score a touchdown. Obviously, there will be struggles and setbacks, but you are going to win and you know it.

3. Affirm with other optimistic people daily. This will reinforce your positive mental attitude about life. Associate with people who see an opportunity in every problem. They will become your support group, and you will become theirs.

Regardless of how optimistic you are, each of us needs a locker room pep talk from time to time. Associating with optimistic people will benefit you when you might be losing your optimistic edge. In turn, you will be able to assist them when they are losing theirs.

4.Push the envelope of opportunity by trying something that seems just beyond your reach. Make a list of things that you always believed impossible for you to obtain. Playing the bagpipes is on my list. I’ve tried a couple of times to no avail. In my pessimistic mood, I say, "I’m not meant to play; it is just beyond me." My negative belief seals my fate, and I haven’t yet learned to play them.

Not only does this squelch my efforts at learning to play but also my pessimistic attitude CONTAMINATES other areas of my life. But when we try something new and succeed, we start to build a positive momentum that will enable us to obtain goals that we once thought were impossible.

Carrie's thoughts! As an uber optimist. I can co-sign everything in this article!!! It's true, I'm living proof.. ask me about my positive attitude and I will share with you all it has helped me with.

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl


As many of you know I have an event slated for this Saturday November 21st at Tamborils lounge in Brooklyn. Tamborils is located at 527 Myrtle Avenue between Grand and Steuben in downtown Brooklyn.

Ed Polanco is the manager there. Tamborils is a minority owned business..

I've done two events there already, Aries are so Breezy and Two Worlds Collide!

Ed called DJ Bloc a month ago and was desperate for an event to fill this Nov 21st date, because someone had canceled their private party.

So DJ Bloc, Lonye West and I got together and set out to putting together an event, now entitled "Cheers To You!"

Ed gave us a great deal because he was in need and loved our "Cheers To You" concept with of course a Pretty World Inc Signature networking hour, and charity, the collection of canned goods clothing to benefit the Annual Alpha Phi Alpha Service Project held at the Port Authority on Thanksgiving Morning, where the Alphas feed the homeless a thanksgiving meal and provide donated clothing and toys to homeless individuals and families with children.

Now all of a sudden, last night, Ed calls and says WE CANNOT HAVE OUR EVENT.. WHY? because he double booked and isnt an honest enough business man to rectify his mistakes.

He made a commitment with us back in October, but did not require us to leave a deposit because he is the one who called us to do business.

He made a second commitment with another person sometime in the past week or so. The person is the same one who previously canceled their private event. Already aware he had given her date away because she canceled, HE TOOK HER DEPOSIT ANYWAY and then called us to cancel.

Why? because obviously cash in hand is a better opportunity for him than an event that he personally ASKED to be developed.

The woman who left her deposit doesn't want outsiders to attend. He supposedly claims he asked her if we could both have our event there.

So now I am out of luck without a venue?????? TWO DAYS BEFORE!!!!!

Funny thing is he guaranteed her there would be a DJ there, which he doesn't have. Do you know he had the nerve to ask DJ Bloc to DJ her event???? When he won't let us bring our people inside??? Are you kidding me?

What kind of underhanded trifling type of operation is he running there?

This is just bad business all around.

Especially since having done our 2 events there we have referred at LEAST 5 people who have also had their birthday parties there!!!

So basically he has made at least $8000 off of DJ Bloc and I through referral business which he has so readily accepted and enjoyed over the past 5 months, yet he is willing to sever what had been a continuously mutual beneficial agreement over a measly $1000 deposit that this mystery person has left???

Our business relationship is over now. This is no longer a mutually beneficial agreement. It's

So now I must put his ass on blast.


The second ring of effects of his unprofessional, unacceptable, trifling actions now mean on THANKSGIVING DAY the donations I expected to make may be NAUGHT!!!

Can anyone help me out? do you have access to a venue this Saturday??? At this point its more about the donations than the profit. I just want to have my event and be able to participate in the service project on Thursday!

I'm ASKING that we all BOYCOTT Tamborils "MONEY HUNGRY" Lounge. Who would risk severing an ongoing business relationship for a few greenbacks!!! THAT IS JUST UNETHICAL!!!!!

To all my friends who had their events there previously, there is no need for us to continue to patronize this business. Let his bad seeds, sow him all the weeds he is intended to grow!!

As of right now, the event is in limbo, Lonye, DJ Bloc and I are frantically trying to secure another location. We will let you all know tomorrow!


Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl.

Rules.... Rules!!! Rules!!!!!

If you had to make a list of rules for a relationship what would they be? LOL

I was pondering this the other day after my Funny like Ha Ha? note.. that MEN and WOMEN equally should abide.. cynically by .. i wonder which comedian has material like this... besides Eddie Murphy..


want to help me put the rules together ? This is going to be funny!! lolol

so far i have.
1.Don't bring home your funky attitude if you have no intentions on sharing what the issue is. WOMEN ESPECIALLY>> CLASSIC, Guy Question.. Whats wrong baby??? Woman responds, >>NOTHING<<<

ummm. Keep it outside then and fake a smile when you come in the door. Maintain the peace in your household, don't let your stress infect everyone else and bring unnecessary mayhem home.

2. If your non-sharing a** full of life stress repeats the same habit for more than 6 months, consider switching from being in a relationship to being a roommate.. you are under no obligation to share any of your business with a roommate, just make out the rent check on time.

3. Try is a bullshit word. We learned that in the Bullshit Leaders note. The word try does not exist. It is a delusional excuse we use to deflect personal responsibility off of our actions or inactions. All we ever do is choose, nothing more nothing less. Things either happen or they don't there is no gray middle..

"I tried to call you.. " What this really means is, I called you and you didn't answer. My job is final. I did my part. Try leaves room for insufficiency and justification of repeat offenses in advance. "I tried not to cheat this time". What that really means is "I cheated, AGAIN". plain and simple. *shrug* is this complicated?

4. Keep your words clean and your hands to yourself in relationships.. If you don't respect your mate the same way you respect your own mother and father, then what you need is one of those blow up dolls with sand in the bottom that bounces back and forth when you release all your frustrations.. not a person!

We can even add attachments to your doll to make it able to satisfy you as well.. LOL. With no backtalk or chores required...

You guys fill in the blanks...

make them fun!!!







Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

It's Not Just A "Black Thing"

We all have self hate issues at times..

Color Complex: Sammy Sosa's Lighging Face

Tuesday, November 17, 2009 | 7:00 AM

by Jesús Triviño Alarcón ESSENCE MAGAZINE

Don't blame Sammy Sosa. Blame Rafael Trujillo. The late Dominican dictator's rule (1930-1961) left generations of his countrymen without families, hope, and a demonized view of Afro-Dominicans and Haitians. During his reign he ordered the execution of tens of thousands of Haitians (The Parsley Massacre) and opened the doors to Jewish refugees from Europe in hopes of adding more Caucasians to his mostly Afro-Latino isle. His self-hatred was ever clear when Trujillo powdered his skin to appear lighter. So, in retrospect, Sosa is simply carrying out the racist ideologies that have permeated Latin America for centuries.

Afro-Latinos exist in large numbers in Latin American countries beyond the Caribbean, yet they remain disenfranchised. Colombia is home to 15 million Afro-Latinos yet its most popular stars are fair-skinned (Shakira and Juanes). The aspiration to appear more European is even prevalent in the world's largest beauty pageant--Miss Universe. Even though 18 Latin American countries participated only one contestant appeared to have African ancestry (Miss Dominican Republic).

Many Latinos are still under the Spanish Conquistador's spell--white is better. Our grandparents and even some of our parents encourage us to marry to mejorar la raza (improve the race). Meaning you should marry a white woman to make sure your child is at least has a 50 percent chance to be fair-skinned. Latino men are subconsciously trained to date and marry lighter-skinned women. We hear it in our homes as children and see it on Spanish-language media. For example, telenovelas (Spanish-language soap operas) always have European-looking Latino actors in lead roles while Afro-Latinos are lucky if they grab a role as a maid.

Sosa isn't much different from Juan Doe in Mexico who buys Crema de Belleza-Manning to lighten his skin to attract light-skinned women. In an interview with Univision's Primer Impacto Sosa said, "I want to clarify on your show that I am not a racist person." In between laughs and smirks, Sosa tells the reporter he's going to start to market the skin-lightening cream. When asked if he's rubbed the cream all over his body, Sosa chuckles once again and said, "No, because I only put it on my face not on my whole body. If I did that then I would have a problem. I would have to call 911."

Yet, Sosa's situation isn't a laughing matter.

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Funny like Ha Ha?

I personally love to laugh, cause nothing feels better than a good gut busting funny

I like clear and straight funny jokes.. easy to understand and laugh at

Probably because I'm more of a say what u mean and mean what u say I'm too busy of a girl to be dissecting and translating words especially when they come out in sarcastic jokes..

Are sarcastic jokes funny? Or are they just rude?

Nothing irks me more than insulting jokes....

I'd like to take a vote, everyone who finds these retorts funny, say I, those opposed, say Nay

There is a couple I know where the husband depending on what his wife asks him to do will respond with a effe u to then laughs or says whatever bitch then laughs before going to commence his chore.

The wife thinks its completely normal and ok for him to speak to her like that, she says its how he shows affection, like his way to joke with her, it used to offend her in the beginning but now she evens responds back with whatever nigga! Effe off...

How do you learn to accept such language? Doesnt she feel disrespected every time those words were uttered, what will she do when she has children? Will this still be considered loving and affectionate?

Where is my guest psychotherapist Lisa Jones?? Lisa is that normal or a healthy way for couples to communicate?? Is it productive to be rude and degrading to one another? What kind of future can this couple expect for themselves and how will their future children feel about their language choices??

To me it's just disrespectful and adding a laugh to the end doesn't somehow make it comical....

would he speak to his mother or grandmother like that ? No? why?
He probably respects honor and cherishes them.. So why not u? If he respects u less and u in turn accept it on top of that what does that say about your own self esteem?!

Ladies if u have a man who speaks to you like this, nip that in the bud ASAP You deserve better, more respect, especially if u are a mother! want him to be a better man? Raise your standards!

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Women Only Have 1 Major Flaw!

Written by Unknown!

Women have strengths that AMAZE men.....

They bear hardships and they carry burdens,

but they hold happiness, love and joy.

They SMILE when they want to SCREAM.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy

and laugh when they are nervous.

They FIGHT for what they believe in..

They stand up to injustice.

They DON'T take "NO" for an answer

when they believe there is a better solution.

They GO WITHOUT so their family can HAVE.

They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.


They cry when their children excel

and cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about

a birth or a wedding.

Their hearts break when a friend dies.

They grieve at the loss of a family member,

yet THEY ARE STRONG when they

think there is NO STRENGTH LEFT.

They know that a hug and a kiss

can heal a broken heart.

Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail

to show how much they CARE about you.

The heart of a woman is what

makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, hope and love.

They have compassion and ideas.

They give moral support to their

family and friends.

Women have vital things to say

and everything to give.





Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Our 30 before 30 list

Well I only have 5 months left, so I guess I need to get cracking!

An old friend Lisa H, gave me this great idea yesterday, She's 29 today and making her list of things to accomplish in the next 365 days... the note topic was YOUR 50 Day headstart.. So now with only 49 days left until the end of the year we only have 49 more days to headstart our next 365 day year. So lets GO!

I think I may need to call mine the 30 before 31 list, just so I have enough time to do them all..

Here are my first 10, name some off your list in your comments that way everyone reading can get more ideas!

1. transfer my MUP coursework from Hunter to Columbia
2. incorporate/ and trademark my latest business idea
3. dedicate 3-4 hours a day to developing my businesses
4. travel to europe
5. save $xxxxx towards a new house
6. increase my fluency in spanish
7. find a high school to mentor with
8. secure 2 keynotes addresses
9. pursue funding for PWI
10. actively invest in individual stocks

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl

Your 50 Day Headstart!

There are only 50 days left in 2009...

That means each and every one of us has 50 days worth of new opportunity sitting right in our laps...

Yesterday someone wrote on Twitter, "Its only 51 days left in 2009, no need to start tryna change now. I'll make a fresh start Jan 1st!"


What you need to do is get in gear, start your training for Jan 1.

If there were a marathon Jan 1 you wouldn't wait until the day of to start to practice running would you!?!?!

Why do it with your life then???

Whatever it is that you want to work on, do the training for it NOW, so that Jan 1 you can hit the ground RUNNING!!!!!

For example.. want to save in 2010??? Even if you do not save a dime for the rest of 2009, Start today figuring out HOW YOU CAN START SAVING ON JANUARY 1 2010...

Your first step... look at your finances.. MAKE A BUDGET, and figure out NOW what you will need to do or cut or sacrifice or change so that come January 1 YOU CAN STICK TO IT

Want to go back to school in January??? Start reaching out to programs NOW, figure out the requirements, what you need to do, how to get accepted and get financial aid NOW not January 1

Thinking about changing careers?? Start researching TODAY, is this the right time because of the recession, what should your strategy be if its a good time to make a move??

Laid off from your job?? Start looking for a new job NOW!!!! a lot of people say oooh you won't find anything now it's the holidays!!! wait until the new year to start looking, PLEASE THATS CRAP!!! MY friend just got a new job, YESTERDAY! So shout out to all the people who put their job searches on hold because it's the holidays.. SHE THANKS YOU!

If you have a funky attitude, are naturally a miserable person, mean, rude or gross. Stop that ish today!! don't wait to the new year to figure out how to be a better person, a better friend, a better wife, a better husband... YOU HAVE 50 DAYS LEFT TO PRACTICE YOUR NEW ATTITUDE!!!!

It's time to stop PROCRASTINATING and get PROACTIVE

Why wait 50 more days for something you can start TODAY!??

GO GO GO GO GO GO GO GO... yes get off your ass and GOOOOOO!!!

I challenge you today to get a head start on all the changes you want to accomplish in 2010.

In fact I dare you to start now.. I double dare you... I triple dog dare you

*arms folded*

hmph! take that!

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl


If you are 25 or older you will think this is hilarious!!!!

When I was a kid, adults used to bore me to tears with their tedious diatribes about how hard things were.

When they were growing up; walking 25 miles to school every morning.... Uphill... barefoot... BOTH ways Yadda, yadda, yadda

And I remember promising myself that when I grew up, there was no way in hell I was going to lay a bunch of crap like that on my kids about how hard I had it and how easy they've got it!

But now that I'm near the ripe old age of thirty, I can't help but look around and notice the youth of today.

You've got it so easy!

I mean, compared to my childhood, you live in Utopia!

And I hate to say it, but you kids today, you don't know how good you've got it!

I mean, when I was a kid we didn't have The Internet. If we wanted to know something, we had to go to the darn library and look it up ourselves, in the card catalogue!!

There was no email!! We had to actually write somebody a letter - with a pen! Then you had to walk all the way across the street and put it in the mailbox and it would take, like, a week to get there! Stamps were 25 cents!

Child Protective Services didn't care if our parents beat us. As a matter of fact, the parents of all my friends also had permission to kick our ass! Nowhere was safe!

There were no MP3's or Napsters! If you wanted to steal music, you had to hitchhike to the record store and shoplift it yourself! Or you had to wait around all day to tape it off the radio and the DJ would usually talk over the beginning and @#*% it all up!

There were no CD players! We had tape decks in our car. We'd play our favorite tape and "eject" it when finished and the tape would come undone. Cause - that's how we rolled.

We didn't have fancy crap like Call Waiting! If you were on the phone and somebody else called they got a busy signal, that's it!

And we didn't have fancy Caller ID either! When the phone rang, you had no idea who it was! It could be your school, your mom, your boss, your bookie, your drug dealer, a collections agent, you just didn't know!!! You had to pick it up and take your chances, mister!

We didn't have any fancy Sony Play station video games with high-resolution 3-D graphics! We had the Atari 2600! With games like 'Space Invaders' and 'Asteroids'. Your guy was a little square! You actually had to use your imagination!! And there were no multiple levels or screens; it was just one screen... forever! And you could never win. The game just kept getting> harder and harder and faster and faster until you died! Just like LIFE!

You had to use a little book called a TV Guide to find out what was on! You were screwed when it came to channel surfing! You had to get off your ass and walk over to the TV to change the channel! NO REMOTE CONTROLS!!!

There was no Cartoon Network either! You could only get cartoons on Saturday Morning. Do you hear what I'm saying!?! We had to wait ALL WEEK for cartoons, you spoiled little brats!

AND we didn't have microwaves; if we wanted to heat something up we had to use the stove! Imagine that!

That's exactly what I'm talking about! You kids today have got it too easy. You're spoiled. You guys wouldn't have lasted five minutes back in 1985 or before!

The Over 25 Crowd

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls
PS I did not write this.. but it was fun to share!

Why Women Don't Like Mama's Boys!!


Women always like hearing a potential mate speak about his mother in a caring and respectful manner.

HOWEVER, a man who talks a little too much about his mother will raise a "mama's boy" flag in any woman's mind. It's NOT HARD to understand why women don't like mama's boys.

Here are some of the reasons

Women fantasize about firemen and policemen, men that display strength, power and masculinity.

If a sexy fireman had to check with his mother every time he took off his clothes for a girl, his sex appeal would definitely fade.

The thing is, mama's boys often fulfill their mother's every wish, especially the most unreasonable ones -- and that's where the problems start.

If a man lives out his mother's every wish, chances are that HE WILL NOT MAKE DECISIONS WITH HIS SIGNIFICANT OTHER without his mother's approval. It's hard enough to share decisions as a couple, SO IT IS RARE THAT A WOMAN WILL TOLERATE A THIRD PERSON INTERFERING IN HER RELATIONSHIP OR HER FAMILY.

If a woman shares a man's bed, she probably WON"T SETTLE TO BEING SECOND FIDDLE IN HIS LIFE!!!

It is normal and expected that a man will treat his mother on SPECIAL OCCASIONS; her birthday, Mother's Day, or on any other special celebration. However, if a man always puts his mother before his girlfriend, no matter what the occasion, on A DAY-TO-DAY BASIS chances are his girlfriend will end up RESENTING HIM or worse, LEAVING, because competing with the woman who gave birth to him just isn't an option.

more reasons why women don't like mama's boys...

Mama's boys are so used to being treated with unconditional love that THEY RARELY EVER THINK THEY ARE WRONG!!!!

For example, your mother may insist that you relax at the dinner table while she's putting away the dishes, but your girlfriend may not be as eager to do the dishes on her own.

Of course, a man should never be asked to choose between the woman who raised him and the woman who shags him. HOWEVER, if you are a man cursed with the mama's boy syndrome, there are ways for you to show equal love and respect to your lover and mother.

The first thing a man can do to avoid being ditched for being a mama's boy is CREATE a new relationship with his mother as an adult. If you've ever been called a mama's boy, chances are your mother is too intrusive and you need to learn how to say "NO" to her.

She might be a saint, but it doesn't mean that she can't be unreasonable and manipulative. Your mother already knows you love her and would do anything for her, and THAT IS PRECISELY THE PROBLEM!!!! SHE KNOWS YOU CAN"T SAY NO!!!!!!! .

So, once in a while, even through her tears and attempts at EMOTIONAL BLACKMAIL, let your mother know how good your girlfriend/fiance/wife is to you and how important it is that she remains part of your life.

It is also OK to tell her that she doesn't NEED TO MAKE SANDWICHES FOR YOU!!!!!! YOU GOT IT!!!

If you're a mama's boy, chances are your mother will think that no other woman will EVER be good enough for you. So when your mother tells you that she will not break your heart but your lover will, remember that it may sound good BUT you can't shag your mother...

Give her your love and respect but enough distance to keep the other woman in your life happy, so your lover will always want to play nurse with you and your mother will never stop baking you cookies.

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

A Letter to my Girlfriend

By Nick..

Times are hard especially financially, however, my girlfriend does not seem to realize the whole world is undergoing something called recession.

Anyway, dear friends and readers, please pray for me that when I come back, I would not find that she has packed and left a brother.
Dear Apple,

I know you have occasionally woken up to find that I have left you a page of a romantic poem but today not even a single line for a poem because of this scary thing going around the world and it not swine flu, it is called recession.

Please don’t be upset by my observation but I bet that had you been paying attention and made appoint of not missing the news just like you would be literally depressed if you missed your favorite soap opera, you would have heard of how the world economy is literally tumbling down.

Around our neighborhood you must have heard of the escalating cases of robberies and mugging going on, yes that is the manifestation of recession. Now I hope you will understand and support me in this simple adjustments to your lifestyle that is until we cross over the financial rough parts.

Yes, I am aware that you are not much of a cook since most of the meals that we have enjoyed together were not from my little poor kitchen but from hotels. I know that your mother did not raise you to end up in the kitchen but let me dare suggest that you buy cookery or any other recipe book and think of those awesome meals we would enjoy that your hands would make.

It is not that I am saying that you are not in my heart you are but I would like to remind you the after all is said and done the best guarantee is still the old saying that the way to man’s heart is through his stomach. Just think about it.

The scriptures say that the crown or jewel (please bear with me I don’t remember which is which because it has been a long time since I read the Bible) of a woman is her hair and I know how you love changing your hairstyle like you change shoes and I think we need to address that too.

You know that though my mum never went to any hairdressing school, and in spite of her limited tools of trade God knows she has literally made many of local housewives and house helps turns head with her braiding skills at her saloon in the house veranda.

I know that she is the least of your favorite people but she is not a bad woman as you would like the world to think, in this point and time, please let her wash and set or braid your hair, it would be a chance for you to bond with her and oh how happy would I be if my two favorite women were to get along!

I know how much you love shopping for new clothes, shoes and bags how much would you save me the thoughts of thinking of robbing my poor employer to have money to buy you all those dresses that make your heart beat faster and your eyes to nearly pop out of their sockets when you see them displayed in the boutique window if you would look the other way when we pass near any of the damned boutiques.

Baby, the last time I checked you have dozens of good clothes that are being eaten away by molds because you hardly ever wear them, I guess it’s time you checked them out and brought them out of the closest.

For instance there is that red dress you last wore on valentine day, man, that dress fitted you and revealed your figure and curves in way that nearly make me go crazy and have you right there in the foyer of that hotel I was waiting for you to turn up for our date.

It is time you wore that dress at least for me on any other ‘ordinary’ day, please let next year’s valentine day take care of itself.

Let me not even begin talking about shoes and bags. You just have it all. I could go on but I got to run because am getting late for work and you know this days employers are just looking for a slightest excuse to lay off employees.

Just to sign off, baby I pray you will understand that I am not changing to be a mean person and would support me in my small mission to ensure that the bills that there is no way they can be escaped are paid and in time.

Yours faithfully,


When the money goes.. will the honey stay??
Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl

President Obama doesn't work for YOU!

smh, Yesterday someone wrote on Twitter... I only vote in Presidential Elections..

At first I was a little surprised, but after thinking for a minute, most people I know only do that too..

From a political standpoint that is the WORST thing you can do if you want to see change on the ground level where you live!!!

Contrary to POPULAR belief President Obama doesn't work for you, he works for Congress!

By the time issues have reached Congress its already too late to put your two cents in!!!

Politics works in tiers for a reason, so that the people on the ground and in the local neighborhoods work together with the local community getting the wants and needs of the people and moving those issues up the ladder to the next level of power until something is done to resolve it within the states government.

Community level issues do not go to Congress people! Police brutality in NYC and potholes on the FDR are not on President Obama's agenda!

Everyone was so excited when Obama was elected, black people thought the world would suddenly change and their lives would improve beyond belief, the streets would be paved with gold and the trees would grow milk and honey right off the branches.

What a wake up call. People are still struggling, Black on Black Crime still exists, Police are still profiling..

Is that because President Obama isn't doing his job? NO, it's because too many people were unrealistic with the MIRACLES they expected him to perform, uneducated on the political system, how it works and how decisions get made.

When a National decision is made by the Pres, it still has to be voted on and go back through Congress to the State Senators, who communicate it down to the Governor, who communicate it down to the local Mayors, who communicate with the City Councils, Community boards and other local entities...

Issues that affect only one locality in particular, fate rests within that locality, and that's it, if its something more major or has enough support, MAYBE it will be heard on the state level, and resolved there, but really no further than that, unless its something that becomes National News.

When was the last time a President decided how much money should be spent on the roads and schools in Flatbush Brooklyn???

NEVER, that's a state issue and local government decision.

Now if you don't know who your community Alderman, Aseemblyman, Congressman, or Council Person is you are already in trouble.

What changes do you really expect to happen in your community if you don't even know who the local officials are? How can they represent you, if they don't know you? How can they fight for your agenda, when it's never been given to them?

And guess what, if you don't speak up to the unknown politician in your community who represent your area, they are going to speak for you and push through an agenda that they think will be best for your community. Funny thing is that agenda isn't always whats best for the people LIVING in that community.

By the time the presidential election comes along a lot of things have already been decided, and you have much less influence than you think. In 2000 Gore won the popular vote but lost the electoral vote... What does that tell you??? Even your "I'm so influential" Presidential election vote, doesn't count for dog crap , if the electoral college doesn't want it to.

I think the most important piece of advice I can add to this is, in local elections, stop voting for people just because they are black, there are tons of wolves in sheeps clothing out there, and just because you share a pigment hue, surely doesn't mean you share a mindset.. FIND OUT THE FACTS, then VOTE

Sip on that for a minute mi gente.

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

The Decision to Decide...

How many times have you been faced with a scenario that required a difficult decision????

We are all old enough by now to have faced a few of these moments where we would rather crawl under a rock than face and make a difficult decision, or make a decision that we are unsure of the outcome, or are unsure if what we are choosing is the right thing..

Well here's a secret that I shared with you on my status a few months back..

NOT deciding is still in essence making a decision!!!

You are deciding to avoid the situation, you are deciding to avoid the person, you are deciding to hide. So a situation that only had 2 choices to start with, you have in fact gone and created a third option.

When we do this we end up off of our paths to Greatness... Even those who are Destined for Greatness can never make it there if they don't decide to go with their destiny.

So what do you need to make difficult decisions that you face in life??

Well you need courage...

What is courage?

I used to say courage was the elimination of my fears, but in essence all I did was turn the courage knob WAY UP!

Courage by definition is not the elimination of fear, its the DECISION to act in spite of it!

So when I quit my job in 2006 to go to grad school, Yes I was scared, Yes I knew it was a huge risk to make that decision, BUT my desire to get to the other side was stronger than staying in the position I was in. My courage outweighed the fear so to me it felt like the fear, wasn't even there anymore!

When you have no safety net, you have no choice but to make it across the tightrope!

To order to GET UP and DO anything in life, first you have to DECIDE to do it. If you haven't decided then the actions won't follow that are necessary for you to succeed.

A lot of people talk, oh I want to be a doctor, a lawyer, an actress, a writer, but they have yet to make the decision to become such things.

Shoot we can even make it simpler than careers which often require outside entities (schools, employers) to have an influence in your success or failure

People who say, I want to be a better mother, better father, a better husband, wife, sister, friend.. NONE OF THIS will happen if you don't decide to be such. Just saying it out loud does not equal a DECISION..

Another major set back, is allowing other people to decide for you! Who do you think is really equipped to make the best decisions in life for you??? It surely isn't someone else, It's YOU!!!

Don't let your friends decide, your family, shoot, even your parents as dear and sweet as they are cannot always make the best decisions for you! You have to make your own choices, your own decisions, and live with your own consequences even for the decisions you chose NOT TO MAKE.

Think about it, Then Decide.

Carrie Pink
Petty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

Coming to America, In Real Life!!! Home Health Aide Crowned King!

This is why it pays to be nice to EVERYONE....

KASESE, Uganda (Oct. 20) — For years, Charles Wesley Mumbere worked as a nurse's aide in Maryland and Pennsylvania, caring for the elderly and sick. No one there suspected that he had inherited a royal title in his African homeland when he was just 13.

On Monday, after years of political upheaval and financial struggle, Mumbere, 56, was finally crowned king of his people to the sound of drumbeats and thousands of cheering supporters wearing cloth printed with his portraits.|wbml-aol|dl1|link3|

Charles has been in the US since 1984 and was granted political asylum in 1987 now in 2009 after 10 years of negotiation, the Rwenzururu Kingdom is being recognized as Uganda's seventh kingdom.

He has the power to determine and resolve cultural and social issues affecting his people. That is a HUGE dea peoplel, he is a KING, no one can stop him, if he wants to find resources for better education of his people, he can, if he wants them to have access to better healthcare, he can. All he needs is the support... we could learn a valuable lesson from this man..

However I digress..The point of todays blog is to show you whyyyyyy it pays to be nice to everyone, because you never know who they are, or where they came from.... and lets face it the way of the world is more about who you know rather than what you know..

People on the come up ALWAYS remember who was nice to them and ALWAYS I repeat ALWAYS remember who was MEAN!!!!

So as we move about in this world through our daily lives remember to say good morning to the janitor, say thank you to the person who delivers your lunch, be gracious to the dry cleaner, be calm even if they mess up your order through at the drive thru. If you have a receptionist tip her during the holidays, housekeepers too, be grateful you have people in the world willing to take the jobs that you won't because without them we'd all be assed out, like in the movie, A DAY WITHOUT A MEXICAN

It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl

TRICK or TREAT.. Offenders??

Sometimes we all walk around in our own worlds totally oblivious to what or who is around us. We strut while thinking, whats for dinner, worrying about our education, our finances, and our looks. But did you know there could potentially be someone out there constantly watching you?

There are 1181 of them in Brooklyn right now, 587 in Manhattan, and 903 in the Bronx. They walk next to you on the street and sit next to you on the subway.

They may even work in the building you work in or live on your street.

Who I am talking about?

Sex Offenders.

Halloween is this Saturday so a lot of news stations have put out resources for parents like me to know where the Sex Offenders are in their neighborhoods so they DON'T let their kids go TRICK or TREATING there.

The sex offenders names, addresses, work addresses are all there. It gives you the details about their crime, how long they were incarcerated, WHETHER THEY ARE A REPEAT OFFENDER, whether the offense was against a child, teen, or adult and I will tell you honestly, I almost fainted when I saw the Brooklyn map!

So can I even take my kids trick or treating at all???

Now I'm not putting this out there to cause an all out hysteria, some of these offenders could have paid their debt to society and are moving on with their lives, but this is more to put you all on notice like look watch yourselves ladies, and watch your CHILDREN, on Halloween and EVERYDAY!!

Don't think that just because Channel 5 reports there is a serial rapist on the loose that that's the only time you need to be concerned. According to this information, you need to be on alert DAILY!

How do you guys feel knowing there are so many in our neighborhoods? Potentially just steps away from where our kids go to school!

When I was in Junior High, there was a man who would park his car in front of our school and masturbate. The first time we saw it we all laughed, and I don't think any of us told our parents.

The second time we saw him we just walked the other direction and told our parents, who reported it to the school. The third time this man followed me and my friend in his car for blocks throughout CLINTON HILL. We got so scared that we stopped in a store to call the police. He sped off! Thankfully he was later caught arrested and we both were able to positively ID him in a Police Line-up. I'm not sure what happened to him after that, but hopefully they put his ass behind bars!!!

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirl

Put a Ring On IT!!!!!

I love chatting with my girlfriends or watching talk shows to hear the crazy things us women talk about.

So as I try to get people to shake their materialistic capitalistic demons!!! It's time to delve into another topic... THE RING

It came up the other day and with a strong conviction my girlfriend said, my ring better cost at least $15,000 be at least 1.5 carats round brilliant cut solataire, d-f color vvs 1.

Well excuseeeeeee meeeeeee!

Are we so materialistic that our emphasis is more on the ring and the wedding than on the marriage itself?

The sacredness and seriousness of Holy Matrimony has been replaced with a circus "ring" of spectators looking for entertainment, a contest attempt to outdo your friends wedding or the last wedding you saw on Bridezillas and a reason to incur unnecessary expenses and debt!

Marriage has become such a spectacle where throw in the towel and get divorced for any and everything reason seem like the only option, instead of the last resort.

What does irreconcilable differences mean anyway?? To me it means that both of you are too stubborn and prideful to BEND, it means you only loved conditionally, not unconditionally, and it means you don't have agape love (

But back to this ring thing... Women yall are crazy... Whats more important the size of your ring or the survival of your relationship?

Will that ring help you forgive him when he screws up?
Will it remind you of your vow to love him even when he doesnt deserve it?

Love can never be channeled or FULFILLED through a piece of jewelry....

Besides should a man really have to go into debt to propose to you?

How selfish of you!!

Your ring should be as nice as HE can afford, not some crazy standard that you set forth from some TV show or magazine you read! tsk tsk tsk.. where are your priorities ladies?

As a woman you too have a duty to protect your man as much as he is supposed to protect you, and let me tell you, that protection includes protecting his wallet, NOT burning a hole through it.

Lets do some math...

A engagement ring traditionally should be equal to 2 months salary.
Gross or Net? Most people say gross. Your man is then supposed to calculate how long it will take him to save that much...

For the $15000 ring quoted up top that means her man will have to be making $7500 a month or more clearly he needs to earn at least $90,000 a year!!!!

Now if you know your man only makes $50000 why are you trying to break his pockets?? Is that love??

Oh but I'm so valuable as a woman he should want go broke just to propose to me???

Are you effing kidding me???? Get off your high pedestals and come on down to reality ladies, if your thinking on how love and marriage operates is based on how broke a person is willing to go for you, then you are well on your way to divorce before you even walk down the aisle

Elizabeth Taylor has rocked some of the biggest diamond rings in the world, millions of dollars a pop, but we all see what happened to all her EIGHT failed marriages to SEVEN Husbands!

Now, as a red pill swallower, I question everything..Where did this 2 month salary tradition come from?


So you all have your hearts set, exactly how Debeers wants you too, continually searching and seeking the diamonds from the diamond mines, that they control.. smh..

Knowledge is Power...

I'd rather wear a ring from a crackerjack box..

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

A Man Only Wants 3 Things...

borrowed from Dominique Carter, who borrowed it from another girl, who borrowed it from the original writer ; )

I can’t speak for 100% of the men in the world, but I can speak for just about all of the REAL MEN, and if you’re interested in dating and maybe someday marrying a REAL MAN, then play close attention.

I know this is a very sensitive topic that’s going to fire up a lot of you so called INDEPENDENT WOMEN. (FYI, I really don’t care). If you’re as smart as you think you are then you’ll put your degrees, salaries and job titles to the side and pay close attention to what the hell is being said. Now don't front, I know you want to get married, have a few kids and live that so called American Dream, but some of you women are making a few mistakes in trying to attain the sacred title of "WIFE".

First off, I know you work hard at your job. I know you take care of the kids. I know you’re in school. I know you want a social life. And I know you want keep the hair and nails on point. Big effin deal. News flash, we don’t care about all that. These are things you’re supposed to handle whether you’re in a relationship or not. Am I right??? We just want u to take a little time out of your week to get in the kitchen and make a meal or two. I know you’re the new and improved professional woman and you have a lot of responsibilities. That’s not an excuse to making a meal or two.

Guess what, it won’t keep you from getting that promotion or raise. I PROMISE. (Cooking on Birthdays, Anniversaries or Thanksgiving doesn’t count). Now, REAL MEN understand that there will be times that you will not be in the kitchen and he MIGHT have to make a meal for you too. We get it. The shoe does fit on the other foot. We have to contribute just as much as you do, but your schedule or career is not an excuse. I'M HUNGRY DAMNIT.

Learning to SHUT THE HELL UP is soooooooooooo important. Men are very simple creatures. We don’t need a bunch of smoke and mirrors to make us happy. All we want is our piece of mind. It’s priceless to us and we’ll go through great lengths to get it. It’s so valuable to us that we won’t answer the phone when you call, won’t go straight home after work or just sit in the living room all Saturday to avoid foolishness. We cherish our sports, or time with our friends and an occasional trip to let loose, but other than that we don’t really need much but some peace.

When we’re watching the game, do us a favor and don’t say a damn thing. Just bring us food and drinks. Don’t ask the score, or how long are you going be watching or whatever pointless question you can come up with. Your bothering us damit. Sundays and Monday nights belong to us in our minds. We need that time to unwind and be the dirty, nasty, greasy, loud ass men that we were before we got into this relationship/marriage. SHUT THE HELL UP AND LEAVE US THE HELL ALONE.

Yes we love you. Yes you are special to us. Yes we respect you. But what does that have to do with you doing some nasty ish in the bedroom?? Yes we want head for no reason at any time of the day. Yes we want you to swallow. YES. Yes, when the wind blows a certain way and we get that urge we want it right then and there. Yes we want to spank you, Yes we want tie you up and blindfold you, YES we want to pull the camera out (I mean not me uh, uh, uh, yeah, uh, not me lol). YES DAMNIT, YES.

I know your mama told you to act like a lady at all times. I know you don’t want your man to look at you like you’re a nasty freak. Let me let you in on a lil something, HE WANT’S YOU TO BE A NAST Y FREAK. He just doesn’t want everyone else to know how nasty you are. Be every little nasty fantasy that his imagination can come up with. But ladies, make sure you keep a very clean resume. Don’t go to Miami, Cancun or Vegas and jump off with 3 bouncers, 2 promoters or a DJ to get in the party for free and not expect your man to find out. You can get cut off for shit like that. Whatever you did with your ex-BOYFRIENDS is cool. So turn your man out. Lick his balls. Make him look at you funny like, “who the hell is this woman”. Then do it again.

Carrie Pink
Pretty World Inc
Modern Day Supergirls

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